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Every girl I dated I subjected to a rigorous evaluation in an effort to determine whether she was my soulmate — the woman God wanted me to marry — and could fulfill my deepest needs. Although God created us with needs only a spouse can meet (Genesis ), He did not intend for us to find completion in another person.

That's God's role — and our deepest needs won't be met until we finally see Him face to face (1 John 3:2). We place too much pressure on ourselves to find someone who doesn't exist, and we ignore God's plan for marriage.

Every suitor is a potential husband, and every woman is a possible wife — not to mention father or mother of your future children. It's no exaggeration to say that outside of following Christ, who you choose to marry is the of your life.

More than anything else, it will dictate your future happiness and success.

From the heights of anticipation, it can send you to the depths of despair.

There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable. And even worse, it seemed that the harder I tried to be sentimental and lovey-dovey, the less it was reciprocated. Or, once we had a daughter, when I shared the responsibility of watching over her. Because as our marriage progressed, I found myself offering to help out around the house more and more. It took me longer than I care to admit to understand what was happening. Through giving, through doing things for my wife, the emotion that I had been so desperately seeking naturally came about. An emotion that, once had, somehow magically stays within a marriage forever. And I’m saddened to think about how much those messages bounced around in my head for so long. Why wasn’t I getting reciprocal lovey-doveyness when we were first married? From Disney movies to my favorite shows like “The Office” to practically every pop song released, love is constantly sold as an emotion we have before we’re married.After reaching this point, I decided to ask someone else out. I could allow the relationship to develop naturally, free from internal pressures and anxieties. And I still struggled to keep myself from sizing up dating prospects. That didn't mean I was quite ready to buy a ring, though.In that context, I began learning whether we were compatible and could ultimately go the distance. Not because either of us failed to clear the bar, but because we weren't right for each other. The difference is, I no longer gave those judgments much weight, whereas before they were . Instead of the "perfect" spouse, now I wanted to find a person with whom I enjoyed sharing life. At the time, I had a coworker who although beautiful, didn't seem like a perfect match for me. We met each other's family and talked about our future. We still had a journey to travel before getting married.

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